Let’s talk energetic boundaries

SPEAKER_00 0:09

Hey guys, welcome back to episode two, Three Cups and a Dash of Spirituality. This is Carissa, Stacy, and Michelle, and we're going to be talking about energetic boundaries today.

SPEAKER_01 0:23

Wow, I feel like you brought that in so sensually that I'm kind of just here to listen.

SPEAKER_00 0:31

I told you guys, I have the deep West voice. You all have like this perfect podcast, clean voice, but all right. Also, deuce the listeners. Please do. I'm enjoying it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 0:43

We're gonna talk about energetic boundaries now that you've got me hooked.

SPEAKER_02 0:47

Well, I just wanted to say before this recording even started, she was having trouble with her microphone. And not only does she have that sensual voice, but she doesn't even realize some of the induendos or that word right now is talking about.

SPEAKER_01 1:03

Yeah, the innuendos were just drunk. I don't know how to sneak it in. And and I'm over here, and I said, Do you want some lube? Like we're oh, way too much fun.

SPEAKER_02 1:19

Okay, Dr. Ruth, how do you want what which one of you want to start this episode on energetic boundaries?

SPEAKER_00 1:26

Oh, I guess we need to talk about something, right? Well, energetic boundaries, you know, from the Sage method, we use the ground clear protect, and shamanism has something um a little similar, but it goes way more in depth than when I found the Sage method. I'm like, oh, this is so cool because it's so quick and easy and simple. Um, I explain it to my psychology clients that it's like we are taught to um tell people, hey, you can't touch me there, you can't talk to me like that, but we're not taught to tell people don't how to how to how do you work with your energy? And so the energetic boundary exercise is I am in control of what energy I let in, and I'm in control of what energy I let out.

SPEAKER_01 2:17

I love that. And it makes it almost sound uh even more simplistic than you know, I I think otherwise explained. It's like wearing a coat in the rain.

SPEAKER_00 2:28

I love that. I love that metaphor.

SPEAKER_02 2:30

Well, before we get too far into energetic boundaries, do we want to maybe talk a little bit about why we want to put up those boundaries and the protections? And then we can talk about the steps going into it, just because some people might not be aware of why that's important.

SPEAKER_01 2:48

Yeah, I think that's definitely a great place to start. And I'll actually, if if you guys are okay with it, I'll jump in here if that's okay. Please do. So it's okay when we're used to it. I know, right? We love it. We love it. Whenever we meet someone, we immediately get a feel for who they are, whether we like them or whether we don't like them, we just get that gut pull. This person is cool, this person is not cool. That is because our energy is commingling with theirs. And so before we actually consciously meet someone, our energy is meeting theirs. And so whenever we think of protection or protecting our energy, or you know, the example I used wearing a coat out in the rain, we are protecting our energy and protecting theirs from us as well. Easy?

SPEAKER_00 3:39

Yep, super easy. What energy too that we want to release too.

SPEAKER_02 3:47

And I do think it's important in everyday interaction with the world and the universe around us, but a lot of people, myself included, when I first started the spiritual journey, there was some fear in there about coming across spirits, other energies out there that I didn't know how to protect myself from. So not only do we have GCP for the living, the everyday people, but it's also there as a a way to protect us from what we might be fearful of, what we don't know about or understand. I love that.

SPEAKER_01 4:22

It's and it's it's so, so, so true. And it's, I think it goes to stand too that when we meet someone and we immediately get that gut pull of like, I really don't like them, I don't trust them, there's just something about them. It's because our energy is trying typically to keep us away, to protect us so that we don't end up in a situation or in a location that perhaps has energies that we're not supposed to encounter, which doesn't necessarily have to be human.

SPEAKER_00 4:56

As an empath, and the a lot of listeners will understand that sometimes when you walk into a room, all of a sudden you can feel sad because someone's sitting right there that's also feeling sad. And now while we do our energetic boundaries, for me as an empath, it is not a hundred percent for me. So just know that there's nothing wrong with you if you're doing your energetic boundary and that you're still picking stuff up because it's a little bit of a gift and a curse.

SPEAKER_02 5:24

It is, and I would like to also add that when we set up our energetic boundaries and we're gonna go there in just a minute to explain the process, we are still going to experience what is meant for us. We are still going to experience what is for our greatest and highest good, what we are supposed to see, sense, know, and feel, it's still gonna make it through the protection because we either have a soul contract where we've agreed to this, or it's something on our path that's going to help us grow. And so while we put them out there, for that reason, they're not gonna keep you away from a hundred percent of the bluck or the yuck or the I don't know, whatever other words you can put in there.

SPEAKER_00 6:07

Well, talking about GCP from the Sage method, because it's that's short for ground clear protect, I can do a little exercise of that if you guys want.

SPEAKER_02 6:17

Yeah, I think that would be great to do an exercise of that, and then maybe we can talk a little bit about how we modify it to fit a situation because every situation is different, and sometimes you just have to bring in extra things to help you feel protected and grounded. So yes, definitely that.

SPEAKER_00 6:37

Okay, so it'll probably be just giving the listeners a heads up, it'll probably be maybe three to four minutes, and you can go and do this exercise anytime you want on thesagemethod.com. It's Bo Gives It Away for free. I may switch it up just a tad bit, so just be aware of that. So go ahead and get your feet grounded on the floor. Go ahead and sit back in your chair. And if you're driving, just press pause. And when you get home, come right back to where you stopped. And go ahead and start taking some deep breaths, expanding the ribs and the belly and deep exhalations, belly button to spine. Our breath is our greatest resource. Whenever we're feeling anxious or depressed, our breath brings us back to the moment, brings us more oxygen to the brain. So continue your deep breathing as you allow your face muscles to relax, your jaw to loosen, your head to get heavy, your chin to tilt a little bit closer towards your chest, moving into a deeper state of introspection. Your shoulders to drop, your arms to be heavy, sensing your way without analyzing. Allow your upper body to melt deeper into the chair, your belly to poof out in relaxation, your lower body to get heavier and more grounded in the chair and the earth beneath you. And in this state, allow your creative imagination to take hold. And I want you to imagine yourself in a safe space. It could be real or imagined, somewhere you've seen on TV, social media, or a place that you've been. Your bedroom, your grandmother's house. Whatever comes naturally invited in. And take a moment to be in this space, feeling safe. And notice what it feels like beneath your feet as you walk into this place. Notice anything you see, hear, taste, or smell. And I want you to go ahead and find a seat in this place. And we're gonna start grounding. You can imagine a cord coming from the center of the earth, wrapping gently around your waist. It could be um tree roots coming and wrapping around you. Nothing tight and confined, but loose and safe and comfortable, like you're being held. And silently within, Mother Earth, please anchor me and keep me grounded, safe, and secure. And in this moment, notice what it's like to feel grounded and safe. And then silently within, ask your spirit guides through any energy that doesn't serve your highest good. And you can imagine it like dark energy going through your body and pushing out into the earth. Because that's what the earth does. It mulches, it renews. And then you can imagine white light coming from above your head, moving through your body, cleaning it all out. Notice what that feels like. Grounded, safe, full of love, not holding on to anyone else's stuff, and in this moment, imagine yourself in an energetic force field. It could be like a bubble, it could be a brick wall, it could be flower vines. You just want to be able to see through it so it'll be transparent, and it's surrounding you like a bubble, a protection. This is your space, sacred, and then silently within, thanking your spirit guides and Mother Earth, and let's test this bubble out. I want you to imagine a gray figure moving towards your bubble, and it's carrying an arrow and a bow. And as this gray figure pulls back, the bow comes towards you, and we want to make sure it bounces off your bubble. And so if it gets lodged or if it comes through, you just gotta add some more layers. And so, sign within say any energy that comes my way that doesn't serve my highest good or the good for all bounces off of me is returned to spirit and cinder with love. So not only do you get to set a boundary, but you get to return it with love. And notice what it's like. Feeling secure, full of love, and safe. You're entitled to protect your energy. And let's just take it a step further. I want you to imagine a nuclear bomb going out, going off outside your bubble. All the debris and dust is bouncing off your bubble. There is chaos and destruction all around you. And as everything settles, you realize that you're still at peace amongst this kind of chaos. And as everything goes back to the way it was, and that's your safe space. Know that you can take this feeling wherever you go today. All right, Stacy Michelle. How are you feeling?

SPEAKER_01 13:38

So I am gonna dive right in and tell you that you had me in this beautiful state, and then when you dropped the atomic bomb, I started giggling like you know, and I really take it home with that because things life gets really tough.

SPEAKER_00 14:03

Life can get really stressful, and sometimes it feels like effing bomb goes off and we're just swept up in it. And we don't have to be all the time, right?

SPEAKER_01 14:16

You know? Well, and that's the beautiful thing about protecting your energy, is really if it's not yours to carry, you can like just walk away and be like, cool, like get down with your bad self. I'm walking away.

SPEAKER_00 14:29

Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_02 14:30

And Krista, I really don't know what you're saying about your voice because it is absolutely captivating. Like it sounds like melted butter when you're walking us through that exercise. It's wonderful.

SPEAKER_00 14:44

Well, that's sweet.

SPEAKER_02 14:45

Thank you. Yeah, and so that is an example of protecting your energetic boundaries. But the most beautiful part about this exercise is you get to decide when you do it on your own, what your imagery is, what elements you want to pull in. I very much connect with the element of air. So when I'm clearing out my body or my energetic field, a lot of times it is with the element of air, like a wind blowing through and blowing everything out of my system and away from me. You can use that, you can use color. I mean, whatever element really speaks to your heart, you can substitute that in.

SPEAKER_01 15:30

And you can add and withdraw from it as need be too, which is the other cool thing. I know mine is constantly moving and shifting with every interaction I I have. But the beautiful thing about an energetic practice of you know protecting your own energy is that you can trust that it is as strong as you believe it to be.

SPEAKER_02 15:57

Correct. It's all about the intent that you put into it. And you know, that exercise was five minutes long or so. GCP, as long as the intent is behind it, you can do it in a matter of seconds, whatever you have time for. So it's just your practice, your belief, your intent, and those things you do to protect your energy. And that's the wonderful thing about having something like this in place. When you meditate, you can do the long version. When you're just out and about, you're in the middle of a supermarket. And I don't know about all of you, but I hate going to a grocery store. Me too. Me too.

SPEAKER_01 16:41

Yeah, grocery shopping is my nemesis.

SPEAKER_02 16:43

Yeah, so we're all on board there. But before walking in, you can just do a quick G or energetic protection. And a lot of times for me, it's something like I'll stomp my feet, I'll take a deep breath, and then put a heart like in front of me, which is just assigned to me that's my GCP quickly. Clapping can also do that.

SPEAKER_00 17:04

I like that. Yeah. Clapping in the heart. I like that.

SPEAKER_01 17:09

Yeah, so it's really a wonderful tool, and it has helped me a lot. So another really cool example that I have is actually in my house too. I have two separate energetic barriers that I created with my guides that don't allow spirits to pass by certain spaces. And everybody can do this differently. It's just I worked with my guides because when I help spirits cross over, waking up in the middle of the night to a spirit being by my bedside was never a good situation for me. Or maybe terrifying. So I have an energetic protection in my house that does not allow any spirits that are not there for my highest good to get through, which means my guides can still get through, guardian angels can still get through, but spirits don't or stuck souls can cannot.

SPEAKER_00 18:03

Well, what I hear when you say not for my highest good, then couldn't some su stuck souls come through that would be for your highest good to help them cross? Yeah. So that's what I was thinking.

SPEAKER_01 18:12

To help them cross, I'm actually gonna disagree with that. But if they come through with a warning for my highest good, it's that's different because if it's if it's helping them cross, that's not necessarily my highest good, especially if they're waking me up. Does that make sense?

SPEAKER_00 18:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 18:28

But I'd still have to do that. No fun being waking up in the middle of the night.

SPEAKER_02 18:32

No fun at all. Well, we know Carissa gets angry when that happens. I think it's terrible. You get it, Stacey. You get you just have your boundaries out.

SPEAKER_01 18:43

So I have my boundaries, but it did used to happen and it would scare me. Like I would wake up and I would be so startled that it would take me far too long to realize what was happening. And then by the time I realized what was happening, I was able to clear it and move on. But it it would just wake me up with a start, which is not it, it if I'm woken up in fear or with that sudden like, oh, something's there, I like immediately step into like I'm going to protect my family mode and like out on the band. Yeah, yeah. And that doesn't help when you have a spirit that doesn't have a body. You can't varani chop them or anything, you know.

SPEAKER_02 19:23

Well, I do have a question for both of you. So whoever wants to jump in, how do you extend that GCP to your property and other individuals in the house? Do you have to ask permission? Do you ask the guide's permission, or do you just make it an extension of your GCP or your energetic boundary bubble?

SPEAKER_00 19:45

I'm making an extension of my energetic boundary, but you know, when it comes to my husband and daughter, I feel like they have their own soulful rights and they have to have their own boundary in the long end, but I think it it does protect them. I'm not a hundred percent sure. And still, you know, with my GCP at night, sometimes things will get in. And one got in recent, well, this was a few months ago when he was just a stuck soul that was protecting the land and he woke me up. So that's why for me, um, you know, the GCP doesn't always it doesn't work a hundred percent for me every night. Does it work a lot? Absolutely, but there's some that are just gonna seep in.

SPEAKER_01 20:35

And for you, Stacy, so I have a GCP for my house that's very specific to my house. And when I GCP myself or, you know, my husband is in my energy space, I kind of trust his guides because what's interesting is that my husband does not necessarily uh believe or buy into a lot of the practices that I personally do, but he trusts me enough to protect him and you know create an energetic space for him. So I kind of encompass him into my GCP in that way.

SPEAKER_02 21:14

And do you think because we have our lights on and they're shining so brightly, like here we are, we can communicate that you uh bring more into your space? Oh, absolutely.

SPEAKER_00 21:27

Well, just yeah, just being, yep. Yep.

SPEAKER_02 21:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:31

Just being, just being.

SPEAKER_01 21:33

Yeah. Yeah. I mean, when you open up and you become aware of the the unseen by most people world, you really do become a beacon for those creatures, souls, beings that need some sort of assistance or just want to share their experience and knowledge.

SPEAKER_02 21:56

Right. And I have had experiences where an energy Came in and I didn't know if it was for my greatest and highest good. It didn't necessarily feel very good. And having my kids in the house visiting at that time just really saying out loud, well, with nobody else around out loud in my own room, so they didn't think I was weird, but they're off limits. You come to me, they're off limits. And so I don't know if that's really putting an energetic boundary with them, but I feel like it's setting a boundary kind of.

SPEAKER_01 22:31

Sounds like your mama burying it. Like, you know, you're gonna arm wrestle the spirit if they try to go to your children or their loved ones.

SPEAKER_02 22:39

Yeah, even to my dogs. I had something messing with my dog, and I said, knock it off. Not for you to play with. Like you come to me. You come to me or I will beat you up. I think we're just again demonstrating our bad acidness. Is that even a word? Is that now?

SPEAKER_00 23:01

It is now. Let's do it.

SPEAKER_01 23:03

Can I tell you that I am actually so number one, I am wearing clothes today. Number two, my pants actually say badass on them.

SPEAKER_00 23:10

Do they really? Yeah, they're jokes.

SPEAKER_02 23:13

Yeah. It's just kind of how it works in the psychic world. It all comes full circle. Of course, your pants say badass. They do. And it's so funny that you mentioned that because I almost said that in the opening. Stacy, are you wearing clothes today?

SPEAKER_01 23:27

And you answered that question too. 100%. You're welcome.

SPEAKER_02 23:32

Does anyone here have anything else they'd like to share about energetic boundaries?

SPEAKER_01 23:38

I think energetic boundaries are something that we create within ourselves, truthfully. So I don't know if there's a lot more that you can throw out there.

SPEAKER_00 23:46

I like how it is changing your neuropathways. When you do this energetic boundary exercise, the GCP, it you're learning how to be with others and yourself differently in a more peaceful and healthy way. So not just spiritually, but look at it psychologically. You're rewiring your brain.

SPEAKER_02 24:06

And that's so true. And I will build on that a little bit. And it really is kind of fundamental to like the whole growth process because you have to have something you can always go back to, something you can always um losing the word.

SPEAKER_01 24:26

Something that you always have that's tangible, or you kind of lose yourself when you open up or become more spiritual. You have this tangible piece that no matter what happens, you can go back to and say, Okay, I'm scared. Okay, I I'm angry. Okay, is this mine? Hold on, let me take a moment ground and then clear and protect myself and sink in to establish if it's you.

SPEAKER_02 24:55

That's what I was trying to say. And thank you for saying it so beautifully.

SPEAKER_01 24:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 25:00

I got you, Boo. I know you do. You didn't let me struggle on that one today. Well, before we close out, um, I did have a request of both of you because about a week ago I went to Scottsdale, and as I was getting ready to leave, I decided to take my meditation journal with me. Not because I was necessarily going to meditate and write in it while I was on my trip, but I was fearful if something happened to me, someone in my family would read what I have written in my journal because it's all automatic writing. So my request of you is if anything ever happens to me, will you just swoop into my home and take that and destroy it so nobody thinks I'm crazy? Yes.

SPEAKER_01 25:50

Yes, as long as you guys do the same for me. It's like clearing the porn on your web browser.

SPEAKER_00 25:56

With my automatic writing, because I'll tap in every morning and it looks like chicken scrap. I mean it's it's not even eligible the majority of time because sometimes they move so fast. So I'm just like, you know, I only need the message today. I don't need to go back and read it. Plus, now I don't have to worry about anyone finding out.

SPEAKER_02 26:15

I got you, Michelle. I got you. Thank you. So do you burn Carissa? Do you write it and then burn it?

SPEAKER_00 26:22

No, it's just not eligible. Okay. It's like it goes so quickly, and I'm like, I finally got well, it not immediately. I was, you know, making sure, like, whoa, slow it down. I gotta write it out. And I only spend like a few minutes, three minutes, three to five minutes doing it every morning. And and then I was like, you know what? Screw it. I don't need to go back and read it. I'm trusting the messages. I don't need to go back and read to make sure that everything was accurate. I I have enough experience now that I I trust the guidance and it's just not eligible. I just like it and let it come through.

SPEAKER_02 26:58

It's kind of like writing in tongues or something, like you know, in some different language or something because it comes back. Exactly. Okay. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 27:06

It's just like chicken scratch. And then sometimes some is eligible, sometimes not. But if it's coming out really fast, because you know, I have a Virgo moon, so I I'm a little bit of a perfectionist where I'm like, oh okay, I gotta write it all out. No, you don't. Just just just go in cursive that doesn't actually form a word, you know.

SPEAKER_01 27:28

So that's really interesting, cursive. I type mine whenever I do automatic writing. I sit at the keyboard and I type it. And a lot of times the what I get that comes through is not necessarily for me, but for other people.

SPEAKER_00 27:41

Yeah, I've had that happen too, for sure. And yeah, where I I I would talk to a friend, I'm like, this is the weirdest thing. This came out, and they're like, Well, actually, this came up for me just the other. I was like, Oh, okay, so that's for you. I get it.

SPEAKER_02 27:54

Yeah, yeah, and so much of what I write is in third person, and it's like Michelle, and like if someone were to read it, they would absolutely think she has lost her everlasting mind. Like it's just gone because yeah, you can still read mine, but it is funny how the writing does shift and get faster and faster, like just trying to keep up with what's coming, coming out.

SPEAKER_03 28:22

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:23

And I think we could have a whole episode on automatic writing because I believe it's such a beautiful practice that I do want to challenge the listeners here. Do you think that'd be okay? Sure. Okay, so for any of you who are interested in automatic writing, that's basically putting the pen to the paper after meditation or a moment that you have to reflect and allowing what wants to come through to come through. So here's the challenge. Before the next episode, if you have a quiet moment, if you're sitting in meditation, when you're complete, have a journal ready. And I want you to write these words. Hi, my name is, and then write your name. So for me it would be hi, my name is Michelle. And then put my pen, I'll put my pen to the paper and see what flows. It doesn't have to be forced. Just see what comes out. And if nothing comes out, it's not meant to. But if something comes out, just let your hand flow. Don't go back and edit. Don't worry about if it's being written in third person. Just let it go and see what you think.

SPEAKER_01 29:33

And let us know how it goes. And I I stand by, Michelle. I promise that if anything ever happens to you, I will destroy your number.

SPEAKER_00 29:42

You just gotta let us know where it's at.

unknown 29:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:44

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 29:44

Yeah, there are a couple boxes you probably could destroy. It'll be up to bonfire. Yeah, yeah, definitely. So as we're getting ready to close out this episode, Carissa, I'm gonna put you on the spot. Do you have a piece of advice you'd like to share or knowledge you'd like to share with everyone before we say goodbye?

SPEAKER_00 30:04

You know, what just image came up for me just now as you were talking is breath. And for whatever reason, if there is some listeners out there that need to hear this today, stop, set your timer for every hour and just take eight deep breaths. Breaths is our greatest resource. Try it today and see if it makes any difference for you.

SPEAKER_02 30:28

Okay, I am gonna try it also. I think that's a wonderful way to stay mindful and present in your day. So thank you for sharing that, and thank you today, everybody, for listening to us.

SPEAKER_00 30:40

We hope everyone has a great week and thank you so much for joining us. We'll see you next week.

SPEAKER_02 30:46

Thank you. Until next week. Bye, everybody.

SPEAKER_00 30:48

Bye guys. Bye bye.