Asking Intuitive Q&A: Loved Ones Passing, Stepping Out of Fear & Our Favorite Spiritual Resources

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Hi everyone, Michelle from Three Cups and a Dash of Spirituality. You have asked and we have listened. So today we are going to be answering some of your questions. If you like what you're hearing, continue to listen to our episodes. You can even download past episodes and listen to them offline, which I think is really cool. Hi everyone, and welcome to this week's episode of Three Cups and a Dash of Spirituality. Hey Stacy. Hello. I like it. I know.

SPEAKER_03 0:34

I'm Carissa.

SPEAKER_00 0:36

Hello.

SPEAKER_03 0:39

She says it like I can't compare to that. So I'm just going to sound angry. Hello. Hello.

SPEAKER_00 0:46

I'm so excited because people have taken the time to write in some questions. And so we're going to take this episode to answer them.

SPEAKER_01 0:54

I got my first one.

SPEAKER_00 0:56

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 0:56

I'm going to read right in there. They said someone said, When you ghost hunt, what's your favorite thing?

SPEAKER_03 1:04

I love it.

SPEAKER_01 1:05

Not knowing what to expect. The adrenaline rush, a little bit. Adventure excitement.

SPEAKER_00 1:11

I really think that the unexpectedness of the ghost adventure is what's so thrilling. It's what draws me in every time. And having now been to several haunted locations, which if you would have asked me a year ago if I would ever voluntarily go into any, I would have said, hell no. But since going into them and just feeling them and how different they are and how different the experience is from like the one before it and learning that lesson, I think that's the most exciting part for me.

SPEAKER_03 1:46

I I honestly, like I, it's been a minute since I've gone personally to a haunted location. You guys have done way more than than I have at this juncture. But I know for me, going into haunted spaces, you know, and and ghost hunting, as it were. Honestly, I don't really like that term, but that's neither here nor there. It's the you never know what to expect. You don't know what you're walking into. You don't like you you can do research into the history of a space, right? But that's not exactly what you're going to encounter.

SPEAKER_01 2:15

That's very, very true. Very true.

SPEAKER_00 2:18

It is absolutely thrilling, beyond thrilling, when you're sitting there and a cat ball lights up, or a pillow falls over, or something unexpected happens, and you're like, oh my gosh. I will say that at the recent location I was at, the Velisca Axe House, and I think we put this on social media. We are up in the attic, and my friend is videoing behind me. And what she got is an energy or an anomaly running towards me. Did you see it, Stacey? I just don't think I've released it yet on social media, but I will before this episode comes out. So you're dating it here, Carissa. But there was dating it. Yeah, there was this time. We were in the attic. I'm sitting there, and I didn't see it at the time. But when she showed me the video, it looks like a child is running up behind me in the moment when she's like, There's an energy behind you. That's fine. Like it's not freaking me out so much. But when I saw that image, that did freak me out. I found that fascinating.

SPEAKER_03 3:20

Bring you back to the moment though. Did it bring you back to that, like when that happened where you were like, wow, I wasn't scared in the moment, but now I'm looking back and I'm like, oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00 3:28

Yeah, it brought me immediately back into the moment because the it was a child energy. It ran up behind me and then stepped to my shoulder, and I could feel it in my left shoulder standing with me. And again, we were able to assist, but it was just freaky because it looked like it was running. It looked like it was running, and that was really like unself.

SPEAKER_03 3:51

Yeah, yeah. Especially being a mom. Yeah, I'm sure. For sure. Even without being a mom, I mean, you step into that maternal energy and you want to protect all the children because they can't necessarily protect themselves. Let's be real. Anything else for that? Or can I jump in with a good question that I'm excited about? Do it. You're giddy. Yeah. Yeah. I like, I really like this question. What is something people might not know about you spiritually? All right, Stacey.

SPEAKER_01 4:21

Since you like it so much, you answer.

SPEAKER_03 4:24

There's a lot of assumption that when people step into spirituality that they practice and they're really good and they're on it all of the time, right? Because, oh my gosh, you're a psychic. You must be able to step into this super quick. But I take days off, I take time off.

SPEAKER_01 4:38

I know one now. See, I knew you'd be a springboard. People sometimes think that I can read their minds. And you know what? Your thoughts are private. I think I've said this on the on one of our episodes. Your thoughts are private, and it's none of my business. I don't want to hear your fucking thoughts. Excuse my language, but Siri, do you that would be so exhausting? That would be exhausting.

SPEAKER_00 5:00

And you did mention that in a previous episode, but shameless plug here. You can download those old episodes and listen to it. It was like a year ago. So yeah, no, I mean, a lot of this information just builds on itself. I would like to think something people don't know about me spiritually is even though I'm super curious about what's going to happen and I want to put it together in a really neat package. I don't want to lose being a human. I don't want to know how everything is gonna turn out. I want my guides there, I want them guiding me, I want them throwing me synchronicities, keeping me on path, but I don't know, want to know what the ending is. And how fun would that be? No, because you're living for that moment. You're living wondering how you get to that moment or knowing that that moment's there. And I think it robs you of the joy of this lifetime experience.

SPEAKER_03 5:56

I agree, Carissa.

SPEAKER_01 5:57

So for me, I like having some answers. I mean, even when I was a kid, uh if I would read a scary book, I'm like, nope, I'm gonna have to read the ending first in case I want to go through.

SPEAKER_03 6:05

So I do my mom does that. Oh my good heavens.

SPEAKER_01 6:12

So recently my grandmother passed, and she was making some noise in my house and my mom's house, literally making noise, literally. I won't go into a bunch, and then it was so overwhelming. I had Michelle crop help crosser, and then all of a sudden it was super quiet, and I could see her with my grandfather, and it's just I just I don't know if intellectually we could understand it, but it's so fascinating, you know, you're in this little layer, but you're transitioned, but you're not fully transitioned. Because I saw this with my aunt and my grandfather, and then you like go, then you transition fully with your family.

SPEAKER_03 6:54

And I'm I don't know, I had so many questions, but because I love knowing the ending, I'm telling you, Carissa, you and my mom would be besties because my mom can't even read a book without reading the ending first because she's like, Nope, it stresses me out too much. I need to know if so-and-so survives. This is my time or energy.

SPEAKER_01 7:12

Yeah, in movies, I'll be like, tell my husband if that person dies, I'm gonna be very mad.

SPEAKER_00 7:17

Okay, so a quick side note here, and I know it's not completely on topic, it's very human. The show Young Sheldon just started watching it, but I watched it knowing what the ending was, and it changed the experience. But I do love that show. I laugh out loud, but I just had to throw that out there. Hello.

SPEAKER_03 7:33

I love that you just said laugh out loud and I'm over here going, hello, hello, hello, friends.

SPEAKER_00 7:38

Yeah, my kids are probably like, Oh my gosh, she's so old. Oh my gosh, she's still using embarrassing.

SPEAKER_01 7:44

I mean, I came from the generation where you're like, that's rad. That's so lit, Carissa. Now it's lit, right? Is it lit or is it something new now? It's something new.

SPEAKER_00 7:54

I can't even well, Carissa. I do want to say that what you were sharing about your grandmom was very intuitive of you, because the question I have from a listener is, how do you know that your loved one has crossed over?

SPEAKER_01 8:09

Oh I'm gonna cry. So, you mean here's can I say this too? Let me just and then plug in this and then you guys can talk. When my grandfather passed, he was so present communicating with me. It it really helped me in the grief. When my aunt passed, she was very present at the at right after she passed, but then not hardly at all, a little bit, but not at all. When my grandmother passed, she was, you know, in that little transitional space, she was, and then I haven't heard a Pete from her. And and I've been doing some some other work and therapy about my childhood. Like I'm going over different stuff, and and it's very quiet. I had a client the day where I her mom came through and we were talking, but other than that, it's super quiet, and I realize psychologically and emotionally that I have to go, and even as I'm talking about this, like I'm trying to hold back the tears, but I gotta go through this grief in a different way.

SPEAKER_03 9:08

And I and I think that that kind of you just stepped right in. So I'm gonna answer this really quickly because you just stepped into my answer a little bit. Is my answer is gonna be it's gonna be different every time, unfortunately. Because when we lose loved ones, you know, I was talking about losing my my grandmother earlier today. I was talking to uh my fiance about it. It's different every single time, though. You know, it's you you have to trust that they're crossed and feel into it and feel that vibrational energy, right? And sometimes when they cross, it is quiet. And sometimes it's quiet because you need to heal on a human level versus spiritual, you know, and that's that's one of the reasons why when when we when when I have people that reach out to me going, Hey, can you do a reading for me and see if I can connect with this loved one that I lost? Usually I won't do it for quite quite some time because you need to have space.

SPEAKER_00 9:59

And I really struggle when I I heard that question because I need the answer to that too. Like, how do you know 100% that that's happened? Because many times, sadly and unfortunately, people pass away without warning. And so, what does that mean? You know, people get stuck in the in-between when there's something not finished or they're worried about something. I know when a loved one of mine recently passed, I was able to hold space with her before she did and just say to her, cross over, go to the light. We've got it here on earth. We'll take care of these things. When you get to the other side, you'll have all the answers. So be sure to do that. Now I'm only, I know I've shared that before, but I'm only sharing it again because after she passed, when my sister stepped into her physical space, like where she lived, she's like, she wasn't there. She's crossed over. And my sister, you know, she doesn't understand all this or hasn't really stepped into it the way I have. But those were the words she used without any prompting. So I really did feel like it was just that knowing, that feeling inside that you have to trust to move forward with. Which makes sense. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 11:14

I'm gonna bring out Carissa's spice just for a moment because I I did find another question that I really like and I want to hear both of your answers. We're just a little shift in the conversation. In a world of so many judgmental people, how do you continue?

SPEAKER_01 11:34

You mean on the spiritual path? As time goes by, I get stronger, and my I'm gonna say this word and then I'll elaborate. So the first one that comes up really is my self-worth and confidence that I don't have to be shaken by other people's beliefs.

SPEAKER_03 11:54

That was very powerful. What about you, Michelle? I almost said Marissa.

SPEAKER_00 11:58

I almost confined you to. I think for me, it's just been a growing process. And the more I step into who I am authentically, the more I can release what other people think of me. Like being new to this journey, everybody's opinion weighed me down. Now it's just kind of like, well, you have your opinion, I have mine, we won't discuss this and we'll just keep moving forward. And yeah, I think confidence. I think it's just stepping in and owning who you are and knowing you don't have to be like everybody else. We've been conditioned to be like everybody else, but we don't need to be. We are allowed to be our own person and to have our own beliefs and to have our own experiences, and the rest is just noise.

SPEAKER_03 12:48

I love that. For me, it's a, you know, we we talked about it, I think, a lot in the last episode, but it's establishing that I don't have to be shaped by others. You know, my opinions, my viewpoints, everything that I step into is created by my life experiences. So I've I've just reached this point where people don't like the choices that I make or don't like the things that I choose in my life, i.e. being a psychic, doing readings, you know, helping people in in the capacity that I'm able to help them, or even, you know, it comes down to my personal life choices. Screw them. They don't need to be part of my life. I don't need people's permission to live. And so I think that looking at judgments, it it just doesn't matter. It does not matter.

SPEAKER_01 13:37

It really doesn't.

SPEAKER_03 13:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:40

Embrace your authenticity, be true to yourself. Okay, Chrissy, you're up for questions if you're ready to throw one out there.

SPEAKER_01 13:47

Another one? All right, let's do it. Let's do it. How about how do you not doubt yourself? I mean, that's let's I think we need to pick a specific thing, or you'll pick one that I guess touches you inappropriately. There you go, inappropriately.

SPEAKER_00 14:06

How do you not doubt yourself? Well, I think doubt is such a human emotion, and it's gonna be a part of our experience, especially when we're new on our path or our journey. I think you start working with doubt and making it an ally, though, if that makes any sense at all, because you can step into it. Sometimes you can find the answers. You're looking for something you experienced, and sometimes, hey, the internet holds the answer, it has supporting information, and that's great. But when you doubt yourself, you just really are checking yourself and it's your ego trying to keep you small. And as long as you realize that, and Stacey you taught me this once before. I think I just crossed someone over. What if it's not real? And your question is, what if it's not for you in that moment? It was, and that's okay. You know, you're being honest and true to yourself. So I don't know if I'm talking in circles, but that's kind of my answer.

SPEAKER_02 15:04

Good answer.

SPEAKER_00 15:05

And I have someone in the room with me right now, just so you know, on either sides of my screen.

SPEAKER_03 15:11

I say doubt yourself, but do it anyways. Step into the doubt, step into that and own it. You know, it's okay to be doubtful, it's okay to wonder, it's okay to question. What I think the issue kind of issues arise from is when we doubt and we stop. You know, what if it's not real? If it was real for you in the moment, then it could just be for you. It could be an experience that you needed to have or something that you needed to see, or it doesn't matter because it could just be for you. But if you choose, if you step into doubt and become fearful and then stop doing the things that you're doing, that's where you lose.

SPEAKER_00 15:53

Right. And doubt can be thrilling too. If something happens, you're like, no, did that just really happen? It still has that thrilling component to it. And again, don't doubt it so much that it takes the experience away from you. Just like be one with the moment of excitement. Right. Okay. So I have another question. And when I got this one, I didn't know if it meant like documentary or just for fun, but here it is. Are there any books, movies, or documentaries on intuition, spirituality, or the paranormal that have deeply resonated with you?

SPEAKER_01 16:30

I got an answer for this. So when I started waking up, I don't know, waking up, maybe my spirit guide started saying, Oh no, you're gonna pay attention to me. I ordered a book, and I'll put it in at the end of the show. But I was driving home and I had ordered this book, and it was about how she had died, and uh, she had an NDE near death experience. So I was driving home, and but it was in my voice, it says go check the mailbox, but it was so strong, and I was like, No, it was really windy and cold that day. I was like, no, and it was go check the mailbox. I was like, Oh, okay, I know that's not me. Holy shit, bossy. It is Anita Morjan, yes, yes, so read the read the cover.

SPEAKER_03 17:23

Dying to be me.

SPEAKER_01 17:24

Yes. So I went to the mailbox, there was the book, and it was like it's time to read it, and that really helped normalize what I was going through.

SPEAKER_03 17:35

Yeah, it was that was a powerful book. For me, the book that really resonated with me and actually changed a lot of my perspective, and I and I literally just got up to grab it because I couldn't remember the name was The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer.

SPEAKER_01 17:49

It's a good one.

SPEAKER_03 17:51

I don't know how much it helped me grow, but I opened this book and I have so much underlined and so many like different things that I've got that I that I've taken account of that it just it changed everything for me.

SPEAKER_00 18:07

I love that you both had such profound experiences with books. I mean, there have been some that have stuck with me, but my mind goes immediately to a documentary and then to another show about spirituality, but it's fiction, but it really resonated, kind of caused a little bit of fear. But surviving death on Netflix, have either of you watched that show?

SPEAKER_03 18:29

No, I have not, but now I kind of want to.

SPEAKER_00 18:32

I think it's a six-part series and it goes from near-death experiences through seances and all this other stuff. And some of it freaked me out, like the physical seances where people are spewing ecoplasm or like whatever it's called. That really freaked me out. That didn't resonate with me, but the other episodes really, really did, and I enjoyed that very much. Now, the story that kind of freaked me out a little bit, it's not a true story that I know of, just someone's genius mind. I can't even think of the name of it, but it's a woman who's having these experiences outside her body. She is astro traveling and it kind of goes wrong. And is it a real story? That one I don't think it was a real story, but that's a spiritual one that's stayed with me, and it maybe caused a little bit of fear about astro traveling or that out-of-body experience. I'll I'll find the name of it and I will share it with you, and I'll put it in the show notes too.

SPEAKER_01 19:31

Let me tell you another one because I think if y'all haven't read it, you will love it. And I'm and I have a picture of me on my Instagram, Connections Carissa sitting on the beach. It's a great beach book. The afterlife of Billy Fingers. Have y'all read it?

SPEAKER_03 19:45

Yeah, yeah. I have good.

SPEAKER_01 19:48

Who's the author? It I don't I don't have it, but it's the afterlife of Billy Fingers, and then after that, it says, How my bad brother proved to me there's life after death. And it's a great beach read or relaxing chill read. It's not hard.

SPEAKER_03 20:05

Written by Annie Kagan.

SPEAKER_01 20:07

Yeah, and the cool thing is where you know this is not about publicity, it's not about money. She came online, shared, wrote a book, shared her story, and then she said, Okay, everybody, I want to get off social media. I need to have my life. But that doesn't mean I'm not saying that everyone else is fake. I'm saying, like, it's I could feel it. There's so much truth in this book. And this book was a healing journey for her, right?

SPEAKER_00 20:36

Yeah, you're gonna have to put a list together of all these and put it on our social media so we can share it with everybody. And just really quick, that Netflix series that I was talking about, it's called Behind Her Eyes. And Behind Her Eyes, yeah, watch it. I I thought I had the answer, but it completely shocked me. There was no psychic foretelling of this, like there was a twist on it that, like oh, this is a thriller series, yeah. Yeah, it's like six episodes, five episodes, but that was one.

SPEAKER_01 21:10

Wait, oh, I did watch this. What was the ending? Well, we're not gonna tell everybody right now, they have to watch it.

SPEAKER_03 21:18

Yeah, please don't because I've not seen it, Carissa. Don't use for me. Listen, we're gonna be fighting in a second, Carissa. I don't like knowing the end of things. I like watching your mom will be happy.

SPEAKER_00 21:33

Yeah, my mom will be. Do you have one more question you want us to answer before we close this episode out? Is that correct? I I don't. Okay. I'm gonna throw one more out there. Do you ever get scared? And if so, what scares you most?

SPEAKER_03 21:48

Yeah, I'm human. I I mean, I so it's not even a what scares me most, it's what takes me by surprise more than anything. Scared is I I guess I mean I we I step into fear every day of my life, like not necessarily spirituality-wise, but fear is is one of those things that that drives us, it's a human emotion. So spiritually, when I step into fear, I remind myself that I'm human and I'm I'm working through a human emotion. And it helps me kind of drive through the fear and and work through it. Does it does that answer the question? I mean it does. Yeah, I was it was referring to spirituality.

SPEAKER_00 22:23

Sorry, I should have clarified that. But but fear is gonna happen. I would like to say I'm like a big badass and I go into situations and I don't get scared, but I do, and it takes me by surprise. I go in there and like when I'm thinking about it in hindsight, it's like, oh, I wasn't that scared. But the truth is, in the moment I was scared, and if something surprises me, that's really scary.

SPEAKER_01 22:50

Do I get scared? I yeah, I get something like is right next to me. It's yeah, I get scared. It's scary. It's like a what how say jerk reaction, right? Yeah, it's a knee jerk reaction. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 23:03

I will say just one more thing on the topic of uh fear. When I go into a location, I am fearful for my loved ones, and so I always put a lot of protection around them because going into those locations is my choice, it's not theirs, and so I do have fear about that.

SPEAKER_03 23:22

Bringing stuff home and stuff like that, bringing stuff home and stuff like that. I feel like that's a really great place to wrap up, but don't you? Yep, wrap it up, Stacey.

SPEAKER_00 23:31

All right, I'm gonna say stay classy, hey Celsius, and stay badassy until next time, everyone. Bye guys.